What You Should Already Know

There are some things no one ever tells you. They think you should already know. Like its common sense or something. But the older I get the more I realize:

Common sense is not common. And its not a sense.

This is what you should already know.

No matter how cute he or she is, no matter how much money they have, no matter how much you have in common, no matter how much you think you'll never find anyone like them, no matter what religion they are, no matter what people think of them, no matter what people think of you, no matter how sweet, adorable, sexy, delicious, confident, benevolent, chivalrous, or christ-like they may seem.... DO NOT, under any circumstances, allow someone to make you feel like shit.
Nothing you could ever do in the future, nothing you have ever done in the past, should EVER be held dangling above your head by someone you love. You do not deserve to be treated like anything less than human. You deserve better than that. You deserve compassion. You deserve respect. You deserve to feel important. And you deserve this because you are important.

There are tons of things that people compromise in life for the sake of relationships and the bare bones of "getting along." That's true. And necessary. But your feelings should NEVER be one of them. Do not compromise your happiness for someone else's. Do not fool yourself into believing that you are happy when they are happy barring all reason. Romance novels and love songs are designed to make you believe than you have to "give it all, or nothing at all..." This is a lie. Every last atomic molecule of your body belongs to you and your God. Never sacrifice yourself for someone else's enjoyment. You may think you want to, but know that this is a trick of mass media, hollywood, and the widely accepted sexual revolution. Bottom line, people who truly love you do not like to see you cry.

Here's something else you should know:

It is impossible to convert a selfish person to become an unselfish person. All this taming-of-the-rogue, 3-nights-with-a-scoundrel, I-can-make-him-better bullshit is a waste of your time, money, and effort. Its a waste of your emotions. Do not fool yourself into believing he will change for you. He might even say he wants to. Well, F Y I: HE WON'T.

What you should already know is that people are supposed to love you with as much force and as much strength and as much faith as you love them. And if you think this kind of love doesn't exist its because you don't have enough faith in yourself. Trust me, the minute you stop believing in yourself, the wolves have already descended. No joke.

Respect yourself. Good people will respect you for it, and they will love you because they want to know you. Not just a new and shiny extension of themselves.

Don't wait. Your life can be lived to the fullest only when you reclaim yourself. Take back the wheel. I mean, really. Who's driving your life? You? Or the forces you're too weak to resist?